If you're hurting right now - and especially if you feel like giving up - please know that you're not alone.
Help is available. There are literally thousands of caring professionals and volunteers standing by to listen, to support, and to serve those in crisis. They'll join with you to help find a way through the darkness.
Here are some of the most valuable resources available:
- For those in crisis in the US and Canada , the Lifeline (800-273-8255) provides free confidential counseling and support, 24/7/365.
- In the UK, Samaritans (116 123) is an outstanding crisis resource.
- And this link provides a comprehensive list of crisis contacts throughout the world. They can also help if you want to find a clinician in your area to work with on an ongoing basis.
- To find a therapist trained in cognitive-behavioral therapy (an approach that fits well with the six strategies covered in this Calm Masterclass), ABCT provides the following online directory for the US and Canada.
- The American Psychological Association also has a good online resource with tips on finding a good therapist.
- In an emergency, of course, you can call 911 or go to the hospital emergency room nearest you.
Over the course of my career, I've worked with many people who were caught in the grip of despair, and several who were very close to ending their own lives. After their depression lifted - and it does lift with effective treatment - they would always look back in disbelief at how close they came to losing everything forever. That's why I believe it's so important to tell those thinking about giving up: please hold on, because the darkness and pain can lift, and you don't have to go through this alone. Brighter days are ahead, and likely much sooner than you think.
Steve Ilardi, PhD, Calm Masterclass Instructor
ps - If you haven’t already please check out my CalmMasterclass, Rethinking Depression.