What is an existential crisis and how do you deal with one?
Clinically reviewed by Dr. Chris Mosunic, PhD, RD, CDCES, MBA
What exactly is an existential crisis, and are you experiencing one? Learn the causes, symptoms, and how to deal with an existential crisis using our coping tips.
If you’re going through a phase where usual day-to-day activities seem less fulfilling and rewarding and you have the urge for a deeper understanding of life, you might be experiencing an existential crisis. We got you.
What is an existential crisis?
An existential crisis is a term used to describe a period in life when you start questioning the very fabric of existence. It's when your daily routine suddenly feels like it’s lost all meaning, and there's a nagging feeling that there should be more to life than what you currently have.
Life sometimes presents us with situations that prompt deep reflection, such as pondering the meaning of life and your purpose in it. An existential crisis is more common than you might think and is something many people experience, especially during significant life changes.
Whether you’re going through an existential crisis or know someone who is, it can be important to gain a clearer understanding and receive helpful guidance during this journey of self-exploration.
What causes an existential crisis?
Big life changes
Big life changes can often be the reason we find ourselves in the center of an existential crisis. Whether you’ve recently graduated, gotten married, had kids, turned 50, or even retired, these significant transitions can lead to reflections on life, your choices, and the paths not taken.
Personal losses
Personal losses, like losing a loved one, a job, or even a cherished dream, can trigger an existential crisis and send you into existential questioning.
Philosophical contemplation
This can be another trigger when we dive into deep thoughts about life, death, and everything in between. Questions about the universe, human existence, and the nature of reality can evoke a sense of existential dread or curiosity.
Societal pressures
Living in a society that equates success with happiness, there’s pressure to look a certain way, achieve certain milestones, and follow a predefined path. When you find yourself measuring your worth based on societal standards, an existential crisis might cause you to re-evaluate what truly matters.
How to know if you're having a crisis? 7 signs and symptoms
Here are seven signs and symptoms that indicate you might be experiencing an existential crisis.
1. Feelings of emptiness
Ever felt as though something was missing despite having everything you thought you needed? This sense of emptiness can be a common symptom of an existential crisis.
2. Feeling alienated
Alienation is a disconnection that arises when the world suddenly seems different, or you feel out of place in your usual surroundings.
3. A sense of futility
Questioning the value or worth of your efforts and feeling that they’re futile or meaningless is a sign of an existential crisis. It’s a doubt that can make every task feel like an uphill battle.
4. A deep longing for meaning
A yearning for a deeper understanding or meaning in life can be a hallmark sign. It’s a quest for something more, a higher purpose, or a more profound connection to life.
5. Unexplained changes in your daily routine
You might notice shifts in your daily routines, like changes in how you feel waking up, going to work, or even socializing.
6. Withdrawal from social activities
If you're frequently saying no to social activities that you used to enjoy, it might be a sign of an existential crisis. The inward nature of a crisis of this kind can make socializing feel exhausting and less enjoyable.
7. Sudden interest in philosophical or spiritual matters
Delving into philosophical or spiritual matters and seeking answers or solace when you’ve never explored these areas before can be a common behavior during an existential crisis.
The 3 different types of existential crises
An existential crisis doesn’t come in a one-size-fits-all package. Understanding the type of existential crisis you’re experiencing can provide a clearer perspective and help find the most suitable coping strategies.
Midlife crisis
A midlife crisis is one of the most talked-about types of existential crises. It often occurs when you reach age 50 and start questioning the accomplishments and value of your life so far. It’s a period of reflection where you might ruminate on missed opportunities, unfulfilled dreams, or even the impending reality of aging.
Identity crisis
An identity crisis usually revolves around your sense of self and the roles you occupy in life. It’s when you question who you really are, what values truly resonate with you, and where you fit in society. This crisis can prompt a deep re-evaluation of personal and social identities, urging you to seek a coherent and authentic sense of self.
Crisis of meaning
A crisis of meaning is about seeking a more profound understanding or purpose in life. It often arises when you feel a disconnect between your daily actions and pursuing a higher purpose. It’s a quest for a more profound connection to life, a desire to contribute, or discovering belonging in a meaningful way.
How to deal with an existential crisis: 6 helpful tips
Coping with an existential crisis can feel overwhelming, but it's an opportunity for personal growth and self-discovery. Here are six practical tips to help you navigate an existential crisis and calm your mind.
1. Embrace the present moment
Explore mindfulness practices such as meditation, mindful movement, gratitude, and self-compassion. These practices can help ground you in the present moment and foster a deeper connection with yourself and your surroundings.
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2. Reflect in a journal
Document your thoughts, feelings, and questions through journaling. Writing can provide mental clarity and serve as a therapeutic outlet for your existential musings.
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3. Connect with loved ones
Share your experiences and feelings with supportive friends and family. Open conversations can provide comfort, validation, and different perspectives that can be enlightening.
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4. Explore philosophy or spirituality
Delve into philosophical or spiritual books, or engage in discussions that resonate with your quest for meaning. Exploring different perspectives can provide solace, understanding, and help you regain inner peace.
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5. Be patient with yourself
Give yourself time and grace as you navigate through your existential crisis. Remember, self-discovery is a journey, not a destination.
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6. Seek professional support
An existential crisis or two in life is natural and doesn’t usually indicate a problem with your mental health or wellbeing. It can, however, cause feelings of depression or anxiety. In this case, consider engaging with a therapist or counselor who can help unravel the complexities of your existential thoughts. Therapy provides a safe space to explore your feelings and gain insights into your existential concerns.
Existential crisis FAQs
What triggers an existential crisis?
An existential crisis can be triggered by major life events or transitions such as graduating, getting married, having children, reaching midlife, or retiring. Personal losses, like the loss of a loved one, a job, or a cherished dream, can also spark existential questioning. Philosophical contemplation about life, death, and existence, or societal pressures to meet specific standards or achieve particular milestones, might also push you into an existential crisis.
What is an existential crisis in a nutshell?
An existential crisis is a phase where you deeply question life's meaning and purpose. It often occurs during major life transitions or personal losses, leading to a profound examination of your existence, values, and the essence of life itself. It's a quest for a deeper understanding and a more authentic connection to life and self.
Is an existential crisis serious?
An existential crisis can be challenging and may cause distress, but it’s not necessarily a negative experience. It’s a serious introspection that can lead to personal growth, self-discovery, and a richer understanding of life. However, if the distress becomes overwhelming or persistent, please seek professional support, such as therapy, to work through the crisis.
Is an existential crisis normal?
Yes, experiencing an existential crisis is normal. Most of us face existential questioning, especially during significant life transitions or after experiencing personal losses. It's a part of the human experience to seek meaning, understand your existence, and explore the essence of life.
How long does an existential crisis last?
The duration of an existential crisis varies greatly. It can last anywhere from a few days to several years, depending on your personal circumstances, the support you receive, and how you process your existential concerns. It's a deeply personal journey with no fixed timeline. Seeking professional support and adopting coping strategies like mindfulness practices or engaging in meaningful conversations can help navigate through an existential crisis.
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