How to deal with difficult coworkers: 5 tips for getting along
Clinically reviewed by Dr. Chris Mosunic, PhD, RD, CDCES, MBA
Learn how to deal with a difficult coworker and the toxic work environments they create. Plus, 5 tips for getting along in all of your work relationships.
Managing the dynamics of workplace relationships can be as important as your actual work. Dealing with difficult coworkers is a common workplace challenge that can add stress to your day. These issues, if not handled well, can create a toxic work environment, affecting both your work performance and your mental wellbeing. Learning how to handle difficult coworkers can contribute to a more harmonious work environment and help improve your personal wellbeing.
Why it’s important to deal with difficult coworkers for your health and happiness
Working in harmony with colleagues is essential for your mental and emotional wellbeing. Difficult coworkers can turn even the best job into a source of stress. When you're constantly facing challenges like negative attitudes, lack of cooperation, or even hostility, it can take a toll on your mental health.
Your workplace is a small community where each person's behavior has an impact. A toxic coworker can disrupt this community, causing stress and tension. This isn't just uncomfortable, it's unhealthy and can create a challenging work environment that brings anxiety, loss of motivation, and even physical symptoms like headaches or fatigue. Prolonged exposure to these kinds of situations can even lead to burnout.
The good news is that learning how to deal with difficult coworkers can help transform your work environment into a more positive and productive space. This can improve your day-to-day experiences and support your overall health and happiness—and the health and happiness of your colleagues. A positive work environment encourages collaboration, boosts morale, and can even enhance creativity and productivity.
Mindfully dealing with difficult coworkers means building a workspace where everyone, including you, can thrive. It’s important to explore ways to recognize and handle challenging interactions and conflict effectively, contributing to a healthier, more fulfilling work life.
5 types of difficult coworkers
Just as people bring different skills to a business environment, every workplace has a mix of personalities. Some are a joy to work with, while others can be more challenging. Understanding the different types of difficult coworkers can help you navigate these relationships more effectively and help you come up with strategies to interact positively and effectively with them. Each situation requires a different approach, but the overall goal is to foster a work environment where everyone, regardless of their quirks, can contribute positively.
The sloth
This coworker seems to move at a snail's pace. They may miss deadlines or not contribute their fair share to group projects. It can be frustrating, but understanding their work style can help. Sometimes, they might need a little extra motivation or clearer instructions.
The bellyacher
Always finding something to complain about, this type of colleague can drain energy from the team. It's important to listen—as their complaints might sometimes have merit—but also to encourage a shift toward problem-solving rather than just focusing on the negatives.
The spotlight hog
Eager for attention and recognition, this type of person may try to take credit for team efforts. While it's important to acknowledge their contributions, it's also crucial to ensure that everyone's contributions are recognized.
The hotshot
Overconfidence means this coworker might dismiss others' ideas or push their own agenda. When dealing with them, it's important to communicate clearly and stand up for your ideas—while also being open to collaboration.
The gossip
This team member thrives on rumors and office politics. While it can be tempting to engage, it's better to steer clear of gossip. Focusing on your work and maintaining professional relationships is a far healthier approach.
5 tips to deal with difficult coworkers
Dealing with difficult coworkers effectively is key to better managing your interactions with challenging colleagues and maintaining a healthy work environment.
1. Practice mindfulness in your responses
Be aware of how you react to difficult coworkers. Before responding, take a moment to pause and reflect. This can help you respond calmly and thoughtfully, rather than reacting impulsively. If you need to, take a short break for a quick meditation session, or to practice some simple mindfulness exercises to regain your composure.
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2. Set clear boundaries
It's important to establish limits in your interactions. Politely, but firmly, communicate your boundaries, for example by removing yourself from conversations where rumor and gossip are being spread. This doesn’t mean you can’t have a friendly relationship with your coworkers, but it can help create a respectful and professional relationship.
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3. Maintain professionalism at all times
Focus on your work and responsibilities and stay as patient as you can. Staying professional helps you keep a clear perspective on the situation, and can help you avoid getting personally involved in conflicts or drama—especially when situations or behaviors have nothing to do with you.
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4. Contribute positively to the work environment
You can’t control others, but you can contribute to a positive work environment. By staying positive and constructive, you can help create a more pleasant and productive environment for everyone.
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5. Seek help when needed
If a situation with a difficult coworker becomes too challenging to handle on your own, don't hesitate to seek support. Whether it's talking to a manager or consulting with human resources (HR), getting help is a smart and responsible action.
How to deal with difficult coworkers FAQs
How do you respond to a difficult coworker?
When a coworker is being difficult, it's important to respond with calmness and professionalism. Start by listening to understand their perspective. This can sometimes diffuse tension and lead to better understanding. Communicate your points clearly and respectfully, focusing on work-related issues rather than personal ones. If the situation doesn't improve, consider discussing it with a supervisor or HR for further guidance.
How do you deal with a toxic coworker?
Dealing with a coworker you find toxic can be difficult. It involves finding a balance between maintaining professionalism and protecting your personal wellbeing. Limit your interactions with them to professional matters and keep these conversations brief and to the point. Don’t engage in negative talk or gossip. If their behavior starts affecting your work or wellbeing, it might be a good idea to talk to a supervisor or HR to get support.
How do you deal with coworkers with attitude?
When dealing with coworkers who have a negative attitude, it's crucial to stay positive and not let their behavior affect your own. Remain courteous and professional. Address specific issues directly with them if it's impacting your work. If direct conversation doesn't lead to a change, it may be necessary to involve a manager.
How do you deal with a rude coworker?
Rude behavior should not be tolerated in the workplace. When encountering rudeness, respond calmly and professionally. Set clear boundaries about what behavior is acceptable. If the rudeness continues, document the incidents and consider reporting them to your supervisor or HR, especially if it's affecting your work environment or your wellbeing.
How do you set boundaries with coworkers without creating tension?
Setting boundaries is about clear and respectful communication. Let your coworkers know your limits in a polite but firm manner, and explain how these boundaries help you work more effectively. Being consistent in enforcing these boundaries can help others understand and respect them. Setting boundaries is a healthy and necessary part of professional relationships.
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